Dr. Doitright and Don Juan are not real doctors or mental health professionals. The doctors’ advice should not be taken seriously.
I am not getting the attention I need from my boyfriend. We both play sports and we both are taking 18 credit hours, but we still have time in the evenings and on the weekends to bond. Things are even more difficult now that his season has started and mine have ended because he has curfews and what not.
We used to do everything together but now we are doing nothing of the sort. It’s like he’s in another world that I’m not a part of. He doesn’t text or call as much either and we don’t sleep at each other’s houses anymore. I believe he has another girlfriend that he’s putting all his time into. Why else would he be ignoring me then?
Doitright: It seems you are assuming the worst instead of sitting down with him to find out the reason behind all this. Sometimes we go through things in life that are so embarrassing that we are too ashamed to share it with the people we love.
Then again, he may just have fallen for someone else or he’s just not into you anymore. He could also be so caught up in his sport that he buries all negative outsiders and distractions. It can be many things, so before you start thinking the worst of him, try to talk to him and find out why the relationship has taken such a dramatic shift.
How can I tell my lover he’s a greedy, fat, chauvinist pig without hurting his feelings?
Ok, so I maybe a little overboard in describing him, but he’s really an oversized glutton. I’m the only one in the house who’s working so that means I’m the only one who’s buying the food. When I go shopping at the grocery store, he never ask to accompany me, yet he tells me all that he needs. Yes I still buy it, but I spend more money on food than bills for crying out loud! One time I bout two times the amount that I’d buy but it only lasted the same amount of time that less food would. As soon as he opens the door, he heads straight to the fridge. He even gets up in the middle of the night and makes huge snacks. He’s a glutton, an oversized glutton I tell ya!
Doitright: Its very sad to say this, but your lover has no sense of respect for you. He is treating you like a mule, and at the same time, he’s definitely treating himself like a king. Think about it; he doesn’t work and he doesn’t buy food, but he gets any amount of food he wants without making an effort to contribute. My friend, if you keep this up, you’ll be broke in no time.
If you’re in a relationship with this guy then things should go 50-50! Put your foot down and stand up to him. Let him know that if he wants to eat then he’ll have to buy the food or find a job that will help to pay the bills. Do not allow him to continue treating you like a slave because he will never stop beating you with that whip.