College Checkered: On Friends with Benefits

Brenda Figueroa
The Paw Print

I’ve been noticing this happening lately: “Let’s be untitled, not get into the whole boyfriend/girlfriend titles.” That’s right, I’m speaking about the phenomenonon called “friends with benefits” and it seems to be a common occurrence at ASC. Friends with benefits have gained popularity in the dating scene as more college students are looking for fun and not the lasting commitment a relationship can bring. Friends with benefits can be easily described as “two friends who have a sexual relationship without being emotionally involved.
Typically, two good friends have casual sex without a monogamous relationship or any kind of commitment”.  Or as I like to think about it, friends by day, sex partners by night (it gives it more of a superhero ring to it).
So, what is the fascination with having a friend with benefits? Well, after thinking about it for a week or so and interviewing several of my friends that are currently having sexy time with a close friend, I have narrowed it down to the simple fact that the main attraction is the availability of easy sex. Sexy time is literally a phone call or text away. There is also a comfort factor that comes into play when having a friend with benefits. You’re generally more comfortable physically and emotionally with a friend and you will also know exactly what to expect in the bedroom.
Alright, so I know what you’re thinking; “where can I get me one of those?” Well, sorry to burst your horny bubble but you should know that the main downfall of having a friend with benefits relationship is one person considering the possibility of more. So while you might be having a hell of a time in the sack, they might be wishing for more intimacy or seeking a commitment and thus comes to play the dreaded “what are we” chat. There is the possibility that a friends with benefits situation could lead to a serious relationship, but this is quite rare. In most common cases a friendship is usually damaged and some awkward moments may arise in the future. So, before you begin to tangle limbs with one of your best friends, I advise you to make sure clear rules are set so no one ends up with less or more than they bargained for. As for me? Well, let’s just say that if you want possession of my lady parts and all of this goodness, you need to take responsibilities for my emotions as well. is powered by WordPress µ | Spam prevention powered by Akismet