Dr. Chocolate Thunder is not real doctor or mental health professional. The doctor’s advice should not be taken seriously.**
Dear DLC, When I first started dating my current boyfriend, we were very attracted to each other sexually. We still are, and we have sex a lot. I enjoy it, but I am afraid that I’ll get worn out or tired of it…or even worse, that my boyfriend will. Is there such thing as too much of a good thing?
CT: No! Good sex is good sex so just keep at it. I mean if it’s going so well then why even worry about it going bad. It’s a good a thing really; you’ve got a GREAT thing going so just keeping it going. If it ever gets boring just find ways to spice it up and your golden. You have an amazing thing honey; don’t ruin it with your worries. When you start to sense that things are getting a little dry, try some new things, like investing in a Kama-Sutra or a little experimentation. Until then, stop stressing and you two kids enjoy yourselves.
Dear DLC, I’ve only went on a date with this guy once and he acts like he’s my boyfriend. I get constant phone calls, texts, and he gets weirdly jealous when I talk to other guys. How do I get him to back off?
CT: Stage five-clinger! Run! Run! Pack the essentials, and run for dear life! There is no way for you to let this guy down easy. You’re going to have to be totally mean and tell it like it is. If your remotely nice he’ll mistake this for you having feelings and getting him to back off will only get worse. Don’t worry about sparing his feelings, because being nice and ignoring the situation will only make it worse! If for some reason you still want to hang out with this guy, and I have no idea why you would, take my advice and drop him a line to get him to back off. Trying something like “I’m not looking for a serious relationship, but I’d still like to get to know you.” Good luck!
Dear DLC, I was talking to this guy from back home over break and we decided to keep in touch once I came back to school. Our conversations gradually got more flirty and suggestive. Recently, he surprised me by booking a flight to come to see me next weekend. I think he’s expecting sex and honestly, I thought I’d have until at least spring break before I’d have to decide if I wanted to. Am I obligated to sleep with him since he is coming so far just to see me?
CT: Yes, yes it does, he is traveling all this way…NOT! Your over-flirtation, and suggestive text messages all point him to the direction to think your putting out. Your body is your body, and you don’t need to do anything you’re uncomfortable with. Just because he is flying miles to see doesn’t mean anything. You may want to set him straight before he even makes the trip that way he doesn’t expect you welcoming him on a bed full of roses. Do be prepared to have your feelings hurt, He may call you names like “tease” or he may even cancel the trip. However if that’s the case that’s not the type of guy you need in your life anyways and you can move on.
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