As a small blender event I made a poster saying When I grow up I want to be. I made this because I don’t know what I want to be . Because being a princess is not a realistic thing. This was a small but I think impaction event. When I left the poster I only had a few signatures on it, but by the time I came back the next day there were plenty more. This made me happy that I could interrupt someones day in a positive way. A positive interrupt to me is a positive WTF of the day. People think… What is this… why is this… Well it just is. It’s a point of positive energy that could gain momentum for others.

Out group members do not fit in with the regular group. The out group members challenges the process and makes the group wonder why they are the way they are. The out group member is the solo member.  I think they have the advantage. The funny thing is that the out group member has the most most motivation on the group.

This week my random act of kindness was to had out homemade cookies around the student union building. There is nothing better than a random homemade treat. To me it would be encouraging the heart. I think doing something for someone can help them help others. It’s a domino effect. Good vibes go far in life. I think sometimes we forget about others and only think about ourselves.
So take some time out of your day help someone. Do something for others. Make someone’s day.

To make a positive impact on someones day do a random act of kindness.
-Let someone go in front of you in line
-Help someone
-Make a new friend
-Being kind to someone you don’t like
-Something as small as just listening to a friend can make a difference

Random acts of kindness builds the relationship and can open the door for others to make a positive impact.

If someone does a genuinely good job, what do you say? …..Thank you, Right? But are we saying it because we mean it or are we programed as human beings to say it because we are “supposed to”. Do we give praise as much as we “should”? When should we? When do we mean it? I would like to take this week to take some time and tell someone thank you and really mean it. It may be for a job well done, or just for being a good person. I think of thanks and praise most of all for my parents. Looking at the big picture they do so much for me. I would like to thanks my professors and mentors, because not only have they taught me about the subject they teach it but have taught me about life in general.

This week please give someone a genuine thank you, you might feel better about yourself and make someone else feel better as well

Life lessons I have recently learned:
1) I refuse to be anyone’s “side girl”
2) I am strong and independent (I think I forgot that)
3) Never push your friends to the side for a boy
4) Don’t give your heart away completely
5) Never lose yourself in love
6) At the end of the day it’s yourself you have to take care of
7) Fate has a way of working things out
8) When one door closes three more open
9) It’s OK to be selfish with your feelings
10) Never change yourself…..for anyone

In class we discussed many forms of leadership. Some that are not so good but can be effective and others that are good but can be ineffective. The one thing that i like most is that a good leader should have a balance between all of them, form authoritarian, democracy, x and y and the lazypul. the Y form of leadership i could apply with and relate to. It’s probably the form of leadership that i use naturally with0ut effort. But after learning of the rest i can see that i need to work hard at getting a full understanding of the rest so that when situations arise i can know which form of leadership would be best to fit the situation. A good leader that i had for a few years used Democracy and was good at it. He came up with a thing that if there was a problem that instead of coming right to him to fix it, that we would fix it ourselfs and than report to him how we fixed th problem instead of him coaching us how. I really liked this because you could get stronger growth by learning though things on are own.

Challenging the process is often an action that comes out of caring for something others care about as well. Often people just do not stand up for what they believe until someone else chooses to be different first. This week I made the conscience decision to be the “lone idiot” in my group of friends. I was aware that I would be challenging the process by speaking up but I refused to sit by.
This week I challenged the process when a friend was ignoring the feelings of another friend. I believe one of the most important parts to a friendship is caring for one another. When one of my friends was blatantly ignoring another’s feeling I stepped in and told her that what she was doing was not okay. I later learned that the other friends around us had the same feelings as i myself did, but were too shy to speak up.
I definitely did not mean to offend the friend that was hurting the other, but I could not, with a good conscience let things go on the way that they were. After the first shock of the confrontation this friend admitted that she knew where I was coming from. In the end I was impressed by myself for speaking up. I am usually the one that is quiet especially when talking may turn into confrontation.
Though challenging the process can be scary and I felt odd doing it, it ended up being for the best. This friend has since paid more attention to her actions and how they affect people that care about her.

In the Student Leadership Challenge by Kouzes and Posner i read about 5 practices for exemplary leaders. the practice I can relate to the most according to Kouzes mine is encouraging the heart. I can believe that. In a group I like whomever I’m working with to know that they are doing a good job.
But I feel like I encourage the heart in a selfish way. I give encouragement because I would like to receive the same back when I do a good job, One can only encourage the heart if it comes from the heart . How can I encourage others if I cannot even encourage myself .
A genuine complement can go far if it comes from the heart.
Being genuine as a leader is important, but being genuine to yourself is the most important..

Recently, I read “The Wisdom of Crowds” by James Surowiecki and it got me thinking about the countless number of times I’ve held student group decision making discussions that I thought were great, but in reality, and based on the research in this book, were pointless groupthink.

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